Chapter Two - Antidote
Remove the Roots of Poverty
Leaderette: Even knowing the truth, we still need to really clarify the doubts in our mind so as to require a good fate and cut off the roots of poverty. So now we quiet down together, to start a dialogue with doubts and contradictions in our life...
Why is Bad Luck Always on Me?
Modern people live at a fast pace, doing everything in a hurry. When asked what's so urgent? They would not answer a word.
Haste leads us to the three lowest realms [1]. We make a haste to walk, to eat and even to go to the lavatory. Sadly we would die in a hurry too, and more quickly than others to be put in funeral parlor. Others enter the funeral home at 90 years old, but hurried people may go there at less than 40.
Because they are always in a hurry!
What's Chinese traditional sport? It's not running or swimming. It is Tai Chi. The most distinct characteristic of Tai Chi is one word: slow. Take one's time. What do foreigners do in sports? Pursue speed–a top speed. Take race for example. The current world record of 100 meter race is 9'58'', what would happen if one finishes the race in 8'? His/Her chest would explode with a "bang". People hold world games, e.g. Olympics and Asian Games, to compete the speed between each other. However, the one finishes fastest may be the one who die earliest. Many western athletes get general malaise or sickness after retired. It's all because of rush.
[1] Three lowest realms (birth place) include the realm of animals, hungry ghosts and the hell.
Then we might wonder: why is bad luck always on us? Tires explore when we are driving, purses got stolen when we go to the market, and "no more vacant beds" when we visit the temples. What cause all of these to happen?
These have something to do with what I said at the beginning. An unsettled heart and unpeaceful personality do. Whether a man is blessed or not can be found from his personality: is he tranquil? We don't need to judge by fortune-telling. If he sits and stands peacefully, he has blessings. It's the same case with child who constantly fidgets and struggles to concentrate (ADHD disease). S/he will have two roads to walk in the future: one is unpromisingly playing games at home day in and day out; the other may be to put in prison one day. Then what should we do? Cultivate them and accumulate blessings for them.
A person's tranquility, neat and tidiness with rare illness, is originated from compassion. Unkindness brings about weird disease to modern people, such as venereal disease (VD). Those merciless will turn blind eyes to the sufferings while behave themselves unscrupulously. In afterlife, vicious men would be serpents living in holes, and ignorant men would be domestic animals living in cattle pens or pigsty. Kindhearted men will be human beings living in houses.
Then we should often think about why some of us live in villas some in tile houses, and some sleep on the street or under the overpasses? It's because our hearts are different. You should have understood by now that we should be loving-kind and compassionate from now, like an old saying goes, “compassion removes sufferings”.
Some would say, “Fine, I have compassion, and have no sufferings. But I also want to be rich rather than a pauper”. Where does wealth come from? A lot of people are very superstitious to beseech the Buddha masters to empower them for wealth. It is impossible by a simply empower could they right away be blessed and make a pile of fortune. Some are even more ridiculous by going to the temple to worship the Buddha and uttering, "Buddha, please have mercy on me! Give me some 5 million first and I will make it 10 million. Then I will take a million to offer you". This is nonsense. We must know the fate is still on our own.
Some non-Buddhists learn heresy or fengshui. They might make a little money indeed. But let me put it this way: a beggar's fate is at best to have begged for more food to eat in a day, and will never beg for a day as KaShing Li (China's richest man) has. Sufferings come from unkindness. We are not lucky because we do not do good deeds. It's just this simple. It actually has nothing to do with worship the Buddha or burning incenses. The key is to do good deeds. How? Face this imperfect world with grateful and soft heart.
Is the Fate Unfair?
Some wonder, "Why am I still so unlucky and ailing; my family is still unhappy and unfortunate, even though I do have learned ‘Disciplines of Children’ by Confucius and traditional culture. Is the fate unfair?" The answer is yes and no. Others can turn the fortune after they learned these. Why can't they? It's because they do not practice the knowledge. They don't change your personality; of course things will not go well.
Like father, like son. Like husband, like wife. Like person, like life. Don't be in a fret with your long-winded wife, because your fate has it so. Don't resent that you encounter bad friends, because you yourself is not an absolute upright gentlemen. The ancients said: " Buddha-dharma all come from the heart." All dharma are relative, and be against to a single dharma is as easy as to cleave a bamboo with a sharp knife.
Why are ordinary people always worried? It's owing to the attachment to self. We persist to those obsessions which we think are eternal. When the attachment leads to failure, we get obsessed again, thinking that "I am just lousy! I can do nothing right". Then we indulge ourselves in sadness, and our lives become even grayer.
Where are those worrying things come from? The Sixth Patriarch HuiNeng Master has explained it very clearly:"deluded thoughts brings trouble while right ones removes. Without thoughts, everything is tranquil." Right views suggest no second thought. Keep no opposites in heart, take everything as equal, and attach to no dharma. Dharma is empty. How can we live in peace and happiness? How can the elders be free from illness? Just do like what HuiNeng Master says. Do not differentiate or counter-pose anything. Do what you should do: sleep when it's the time, accept any blames or praises, eat when there is food and leave it when there is nothing to eat. Insomnia? Just sit up and reflect yourself. Let it be.
Modern people are too stressed to fall asleep at night, thinking in bed, "why am I still up at three? Why hasn't it opened the sky? Why am I still so unlucky? When can I get a promotion? When can I get rich? I was so lucky in the past days, but why now?..." Just don't think anything, and let it be. Sleep when you can sleep; read when you can't sleep, like reading this book now. Or calm down and reflect. Let the past be gone with the wind. Eat, get sick, and die. Trouble is useless.
The Buddha teaches us not to intentionally get rid of deluded thoughts, nor to intentionally seek the truth. Stop thinking why you are always so worried, “I am worried and feeling annoyed again! What's wrong with me?..." or "Why do colleagues keep inviting me to drink, they are framing me up!" or just call my phone and say "Lay Buddhist, I am very annoyed, why my life is a mess! I need peace!"
Actually, I want to congratulate you that you have such a situation, since your heart has become pure. Only a pure heart could mirror the troubles. It's like the situation that the pregnancy sometimes hides. Many women know it only when told so. "Lookers-on see more than players". But when you already have had pure hearts to see yourself clear, and still feel annoyed and retrograded–you are bringing troubles on yourself!
How Can We Change the Fate?
Whatever we are doing today, is aiming for a better future. But do we really know how to make choice between sufferings and happiness? Everyone wants to live better than yesterday, but with exactly the same concepts, thoughts and behaviors like yesterday, how will our fates be changed?
A lot of people ask me, “Why was someone born with a silver spoon in mouth while I am so poor? Why does someone get constant promotions while I work like a horse? Why does someone have happy families while I have a swearing husband, either illness-stricken or quarreling everyday till divorce? Why does someone get millions whenever changing hands while I can earn just a few coins working day in and day out?”
Life directions are very important. Wrong directions lead our life into thorns. Suppose that I want to go to Guangzhou, but I take the wrong train and the wrong ship, how can I arrive in Guangzhou? It'll be a total wrong! Therefore, if we use the wrong way to treat husband or wife, will the family be happy? Never. We don't know how to teach a son, how to soothe the husband or cherish the wife, how to honor parents, will our family be rich? Or happy? Never happy even if we are rich. Direction is more important than anything. Wrong the direction leads to failure.
What a pity for those people who listened my lecture and felt it reasonable but won't correct the mistakes when back home.
Haggling over every ounce makes one's heart amounts quite small. I often say that a big heart calls for great blessings, and that "virtue and happiness are mother and daughter". These words are my ancestors left for me. Whenever I return to my ancestral house with hundred years' history, I catch the sight of old and shabby tiles: dilapidated and withered. Yet what I still could find there, are those vague words left by ancestors: good deeds will be rewarded.
I still remember, during my childhood, that my parents never scramble for the land with the villagers, never for an inch of land nor for a mile. Till now, we are the family with the most properties. We were the poorest when I was little. I saw those who once competed with others for an inch of land, are still as poor as before. Those who lived on farming are still doing the same work today, and I saw them fight each other for the land in the old days. I see why it's happening now. Only a big heart will get us fortune!
A dark heart without any inner sunshine will lead to serious diseases like cardiovascular disease. Therefore, it's simple to change the fate, only if you are willing to open your heart.
Karma: Perfectly Accurate?
Not until today have we started to know that we have made so many mistakes. My scalp began to prickle as I hear the karma: killing livings causes short life and shattered health, stealing causes poverty, selfishness causes villains around, and disobedience to parents causes disobedience in future children.
We tend to have learnt something when we take a good look at our own life, and then we should begin to take precepts to change, so that good days would come. Think about this: what do we truly need to worship the Buddha? It needs us to respect. Only when we behave respectfully will we be beloved. On the contrary, people will feel scared of us if we always gossip about this and that. The more people we help with, the more honored people we will know. Just take me as an example. As I now am giving you lectures for free, some of you will feel respectful for me; then you will feel glad if I join your dinner tonight. Who would welcome a pickpocket for dinner? So this is the truth! If you want everyone like you, just try to help them and you'll get their love.
As it turns out, people have innate tendency toward goodness. That's why we all love Buddha, and Bodhisattva. Why can't we get along with their colleagues and our boss? Why would nobody like to cooperate with us in business? It's because we don't do good, and our heart is not kind enough.
Everyone wants to be rich, but seldom knows how, because they have not learned the truth of success and have no idea of how money comes. Some people think that it comes from diligence. But the real world doesn't go like this. Many young also think that money comes from existing capitals, thus often complain that their parents do not have asset for supporting their business. However, existing asset cannot determine a good business as well. What we need are Business Paths. As we talked about before, diseases are cured not only by medicine, but by good Medical Paths used by the doctor; and being able to make money needs Humane Paths in addition to a diploma. Our life would be a complete mess without any Paths. I know business Paths, Medical Paths and Humane Paths after I learn the Buddha Dharma.
Life is actually very simple. It relies on ourselves whether it's happy or not. Karma is perfectly accurate.
Why Do We Come to This World?
Why do we come to this world? I believe many people have , thought about the question. Besides, why are we so invalid in health? Why is there always bad luck? And why are we undergoing so many hardships?
When having a favorable wind throughout the voyage, we have no idea that the storm is coming. Similarly, we do not know to play for safety and do good. Instead, someone, by taking the Three Poisons (Greed, Hatred and Illusion), never stop rushing for the delusive fame and wealth, without resting for even one day. When they have to stop, with aging and illness, it is too late for them: they have missed the very good karmas and mental exertion to do good things.
I have a friend who suffered from Nasopharyngeal Carcinoma (NPC), and drank water as painful as drinking copper slurry. His nasopharynx had already festered, but he still had quite a few days from death. I suggested him to recite the name of Buddha but he could not make it, since it was too terrible for him to make a sound. He could say nothing but sigh, "Why didn't I know to properly pray to Buddha when I was healthy with no awareness of life and death? Why didn't I know this until now, when I am being tortured from fatigue and pain?" At last, he had to surrender his own life.
There was another friend of mine who died of lung cancer. He was left alone when dying. A lay Buddhist came to his dead body and whispered to his ears, “Sincerely pray to the Buddha." The body was moved to tears. Why did he cry? He was feeling regretted not praying to the Buddha when he was alive!
What do modern people recite? They recite the Three Poisons. They recite fame, wealth, cars, houses, children, spouse, etc. In the end, they get nothing. Is there an afterlife after we die? Yes, we reincarnate. The Buddha said that there are six great divisions [1] in the wheel of karma. Those who did ten good things go to the heaven, while those who did ten bad things go to the hell. How is like in heaven or in hell? In fact, you are in heaven as long as you are happy and free from any inner attachment. You feel painful and sad – you are just like in hell.
We started to suffer ever since we were born, as we cried as soon as we arrive to this world; from that born day, we feel cold from the outside world. Later, we have to go to school as a child, worrying about the study, as we have to take numerous exams, on which we concern to do badly, otherwise our parents and teachers would scold us. We feel painful for it as well. Then we graduate, and we find a job. We feel terrified of jobless until we could at last find a job. Then we continue to feel fearful from losing this job. At work, we have villains around who speak ill of us or set us up. We also feel scared of poverty. Then we get married. The husband or wife may be a karmic creditor, leading us to a divorce. Or we just quarrel till death. We have children, asking them to go to school, take exams, graduate, marry, quarrel...seeing them doing the same thing like we did. Is this kind of life meaningful?
Do you feel suffered now? In Buddhism, we talk about living sufferings. After knowing the truth, we need to study the profound Dharma to get rid of the sufferings in life.
[1] Six great divisions: Naturelaw, Asura Road, humanity, beasts Road, hungry Road, Hell Road
How to Become Rich and Honored?
All people want to be wealthy and honored and never want their children to degenerate. But they used the wrong way. The right way is actually very simple: to take precepts, which means, to get rid of all those bad habits damaging our health and our honor.
This is right the way how I changed my fate. I started from giving up smoking. I was a heavy smoker, consuming at least three packs a day. Then I decided to give up smoking because I don't want to play cheap dignity. Who did I quit smoking for? For my parents, who had raised me up but I had never afforded a good treat, and who were still looked down upon.
Who said I just don't want to smoke? It was really very difficult. It was a fitful period of cutting it off. I even picked up the thrown cigarette to draw a few mouthfuls. It could not be imagined how hard it was. Later one day, I went to a Bodhisattva Temple after the morning chanting. I kneed down in front of the Bodhisattva, clenched my teeth, and threw all my cigarettes and lighters away. I begged to the Bodhisattva, "Please help me, I really want to quit smoking."
My sincere heart moved Bodhisattva as I saw it suddenly shined. Then I successfully gave up smoking. As the Bodhisattva let me vomit, feel dizzy and painful in stomach whenever I tried to smoke. I realized that Bodhisattva was so magic!
The other thing is that I used to request my relatives to prepare me some chicken and fish meat before I was invited to visit them. Each time I went back home, I would eat a few chickens. Now my relatives still laughed at me. Indeed, the moment I ate them I was happy; but the chicken family was all eaten by me in just a few days. We must know that everything is spiritual! Even the chicken, duck or fishes, they have father and mother. Why did I have to destroy their family for my own fun? Later on, I begged Bodhisattva to stop me from eating meat as well. Magically, I would have loose bowels whenever I tried to eat any meat.
For the good of the children and the family, as well as a noble status, we must stop killing, and stop eating meat. Meat does no good to our body. We must turn over a new leaf for the good of parents and children. Take precepts. Get rid of all those bad habits that make us humble.
Now we are already in a very difficult situation, how to break through this invisible net? I will teach you a method. Relax the body, pay attention to your breath and your thoughts. Do not ever think about any bad things. Do not see the faults of others. Don't fuss about how you were hurt or beaten by someone. Gratitude, and meditate your own wrongs. If you can check your own thoughts for a year, your family will change, your body and mind will change. This is called Dhyana Meditation.
People taking precepts could get peace and quiet, which make them relax and calm. That way they would give forth an odor of honor.